Dear Diva,
I've been dating this great guy for a few months now, but lately we've been fighting. I want to celebrate our anniversaries - all of them! It's important to me to mark the time that we've been together, but he doesn't seem to care. What should I do?
Dear AB,
Yes, anniversaries - one month together, one year together, anniversary of the first time you went to a certain place together, etc. - are generally very important. They set milestones in the relationship and make each partner feel as though the relationship is valued by the other partner - thus making THEM feel valued by their partner.
My first bit of advice is to make sure your guy really knows and understands that anniversaries are important to you. Make sure he really knows that you expect him to remember your anniversary and other special dates, otherwise you really can't be upset with him for not understanding how you feel. Try saying something like, "Honey, our relationship is so special to me, and I feel like it's really important to remember the time we've been together and to celebrate being with you."
Second, anniversaries and celebrating moments in your relationship are important, but don't go overboard with it. One month is a pretty big deal when you're just getting started and it's worth celebrating (heck, everything is worth celebrating when your relationship is that new!). But when you start having too many "anniversary" moments it becomes overwhelming to remember all of them and it makes ALL of your anniversary moments mean less because there have gotten to be so many of them - after a while, it's just another day. So save anniversary occasions for events that are really special to both of you.
Kisses,
The Diva
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